Speaking with someone some days ago or just recently, and suddenly receiving news that they are no more can be painful and unthinkable.
It is also worse to know that they died due to suffering from illness. This leaves one feeling helpless and wondering if you could have done something to help them or if you could have relieved them of their illness in any way possible.
This can produce feelings of guilt, anger, sadness, intense grief, fear, and uncertainty in you.
You need to pray to God and commit the way you're feeling into His hands so that you don't get overwhelmed by all the negative feelings.
Say this:
Father, I don’t know how best to react to the news of the demise of (person’s name). It sounds so unreal; I feel stuck and unsure of what the next step is. I ask for your grace to get over this moment, help me to accept that I won’t be seeing (him/her) ever again. I need your special grace to get over this, please come to my aid, dear God, Amen.