Today in Love Tarot Queen of Swords - Cut Negative Ties

The Queen of Swords is here to help you clear away negative attachments:

The Queen of Swords is here with her karmic thirteen energy to help you cut negative ties with past lovers. Even though you might not have contact with old lovers, the traumas you experienced with them can still have a negative effect on your life. It’s a sad fact that each of our relationships mould us into the person we are today.

Okay, it’s sad and also not so sad. The sad part is that each of our previous relationships ended - so there is a trauma there. But the good thing is that those failed relationships also teach us lessons. They teach us what we don’t want in our lives. The problem comes in when we don’t realize what the lesson is. Because then we keep clinging to the past - and those trauma responses.

So, you see, whether you have contact with an ex really isn’t the problem. The problem is whether you’re okay with how things ended between you - and even if you aren’t all that okay with it, have you gone through the process of really mourning the relationship? Or are you still overreacting in certain relationship situations?

Taking Responsibility

A bit part of the karma that comes along with Queen cards is to teach you some responsibility. Today you need to realize that your past relationships are all your responsibility to process and let go of. It’s not up to your partner to be a certain way. It is up to you to learn to be with them in a non-judgmental way. Right now the Queen of Swords is saying you’re still a bit torn up about your past though.

That means you can’t really be with anyone in a way that allows them the freedom to be themselves. Why? Because you’re constantly setting limits to how you accept love. Does that make sense?

Your previous relationships failed for a particular reason. Maybe they all failed for the same reason, or maybe there were different reasons. That’s not the point. The point is that the failure from past relationships is causing you to start fights in your current relationship for no real reason - or causing you to back away from relationships in general.

The Queen of Swords’ message is one of healing though. So don’t beat yourself up about everything you’ve read so far! You have great potential to love unconditionally. You just need a little help in figuring out the difference between healthy boundaries and trauma responses.

The Difference Between Hackles and Lines

Drawing a line in the sand and letting people know what behaviours you just won’t tolerate in your life is actually a healthy thing. But when we try to draw a line from a place of pain the line in the sand can start to look like a fortress.

There’s nothing wrong with saying how you feel. It’s actually good to be honest about your feelings in a relationship. But it’s the way you do it that makes all the difference. If you’re coming from a place of love, it’s not about attacking the other person for their actions - it’s about telling the other person how you feel, taking responsibility for your feelings, and then asking them if they’re willing to meet you halfway and respect that you have feelings.

At least that’s what’s supposed to happen in healthy relationships. But we all carry trauma with us and sometimes that makes us act rashly without a real reason. Maybe you had an abusive lover that used to beat you up if their eggs weren’t served just right. So now you get angry when a potential partner even mentions how they like their eggs done. That’s just an example, but take a second to really think about the silly reactions you have sometimes.

It’s time to let go of that anger and move onto the next stage of the learning process - it’s time to get a little bit depressed and ashamed about how you’ve been acting. But the biggest part of this process is to find peace with who you are and what you’ve been through. Because when you find that inner peace and accept yourself as you are you’ll be able to create much healthier boundaries in your relationships and your love life will be more fulfilling and less threatening than you ever thought possible.